Nestled among the Spirit's produce is the seemingly out-of-place fruit of self-control.  This characteristic of a Christ-follower seems to focus more on us than on our relationships with other people.  In fact, the hidden, private moments when no one else is looking is precisely when we need self-control the most.  However, if we properly exercise the fruit of self-control, it will benefit those around us.  Being controlled by the Spirit is really the path to true freedom.